Addiction Relief

Addiction is the function of the ego. It spring from a belief in lack, which in turn comes from the notion of separation. The ego can be addicted to anything; to food, drugs, work, body, information, toys, money and so on. This happens as the ego believes it 'does not have', and there is something out there to 'get'. Addiction is the subject or object that an ego wants to 'get' more of, and there can be an infinite form of permutations. 

To Spirit, that is whole, addiction is not possible. How can totality want anything else? Can wholeness gain something outside of itself? 

Hence it follows, the interpretation of whether an ego is addicted or not, is the same with interpreting if a part of the projected reality is existing or not. If the ego sees itself as being addicted, and another ego denies it, the denial is in saying the ego is not addicted. This is less of a right or wrong perception. It is simply that neither is of the truth. The truth is the Spirit is not addicted because that is not possible. The ego will believe what it wants and whatever it ends up believing, would be part of the projection. 

If one comes to you and tells you that they have an addiction you may choose to remind them that their ego may believe they are trapped, but Spirit is free. The ego is projected; only Spirit exist. Hence there is no addiction. Of course, some individuals may be more familiar with the idea of ego and Spirit than others, and you can seek guidance to phrase it in a way that is most effective. To restore the truth, is to hold in mind, though deed, speech and thought, that all ego projection, addicted or not, or in any form of 'dream', is a projection nevertheless. To attempt to convince the ego that it is not addicted is pointless. Accept fully that ego can dream differently, yet it is still a dream.

When you apply this unto yourself, you may try to talk yourself out of believing that you have an addiction or you don't have an addiction. Yet we say, you only need to affirm your own Spirit identity and truth that you are free. 

We discuss specifically of the condition of a sexual addiction, by approaching its simplest form: the sexual desire. Fundamentally, it is a desire for a body or the desire for a projection of an image. If this is not the case, one would be sexually attracted to anything that does not have a body. Since your sexual desire comes from an idealization of the body, what you desire, is the projection. If you believe that you 'love' anyone hence want to 'make love' with them, ask yourself, do you desire Spirit or you desire the projection or the 'image" you have of that person. Would you still desire this person if this person looked completely different suddenly? Why would you desire one more than another? Would you still be as sexually attracted if the projection is that of a cat or a tree? 

What you 'love', is the projection. This is the reason why some projection is more desirable than others to you. This differentiation is only possible with the presumption of separation. 'More' or 'less' can only be perceived through separation. What is whole could not be 'more' or 'less', wholeness could not be quantified as 'more beautiful' or 'less attractive', 'more handsome' or 'prettier'. Only in a state of separation can these qualities be differentiated. 

When you do manage to engage in a sexual act with someone, does it deliver the happiness that you seek? Does it make you feel fulfilled? Do you feel more whole? You would likely experience feeling more separated. For the simple reason that what you seek, is the body, a symbol of separation. If sex provide fulfilment, porn websites would be filled with joyous people glowing with love, in wholeness. And individuals that have the most sex would be the most happy people. Is this true? 

The discussion here is less about  whether sex is good or bad. It is neutral. But the way you relate to your beliefs about sex provides insight for you to be more aware of your choices. The question is less about "should I have sex or not?" It is about how one can express and relates spiritually to others, through all means. Understanding which choices will make you feel whole.  

This is the reason you may feel more fulfilled in a deep Spirit conversation, or a silent acknowledgment of Spirit in 'others', or in meditation communing with Spirit, than any amount of sex could provide. For these endeavors allow for the experience of wholeness or spiritual connectedness. You can continue to seek, perform and crave more sex or sexual stimulation for any other reason, other than to believe that it brings you wholeness. If wholeness is what you seek, there are many other endeavors that could provide a channel for wholeness, more effective that a sexual act could. To phrase it differently, sex can be a means to serve Spirit, as can everything in the realm of relating. Yet when sex becomes an end goal, as opposed to spiritual fulfilment, it gives you just that, sex and nothing else. We are less saying 'don't do it', we are more saying if you do choose to relate through sex, don't fool yourself into believing that sex is capable of satisfying your needs, unless of course, separation is what you seek.

To extend this discussion, in the same way, you may come to believe that you 'love' yourself. We ask further, do you love yourself or do you love the projection you have of yourself? If you are saying, I need to more beautiful or successful or wealthy, then I will love myself. This is being in love with a projected self. This too is a projection that springs from separation. In the same way, wholeness could not be 'more beautiful, or more successful'. This differentiation exist only within the projection, or to phrase it in another way, only when separation is projected can comparison be possible. 

To love Spirit within you and to love the projected image you have of yourself, or more accurately, your projection of a separated self, is very different. It is what differentiates between Self acceptance and self glorification. This is the reason the teachers of humanity teach of unconditional love, for if it is conditional, it is not love, it is separation. Conditional love says "I will only love you if you look a certain way, or behave or certain way, be 'beautiful' or 'sexy', or 'smart' and so on." In the same way when one applies this to oneself, it says 'I will love myself if I manage to be 'successful' or 'behave' or 'become wealthy' and so on. This dearest, is not love, it is control, it is manipulation, it is separation. It is the ego's arrangement of an 'exchange' or a 'deal'.

Spirit relating, love based on truth, will unite, make whole and neutralise mistaken projection. 

Addiction is the mistaken belief in the ability of a repetitive action to release fear. The action is actually re leasing fear: a distorted way of holding fear in mind through repetitive action. The compelling desire of choice being used to retain fear. Thus one is actually addicted to fear, rather than the something else masquerading as desire.

This conditioned pattern of holding onto fear, with or without substance abuse, provides the seemingly unconscious effect of self abuse. Yet Self is not impaired and time delays are inconsequential. The desire being contained by fear will ultimately yield to desire for spiritual awakening, once awareness is liberated from fear.

All cravings, in their many disguised varieties, share a common purpose: to lull the mind asleep for the body to appear weak. A fundamental error of perception that elevates form, and subjugates content, through mistaken cause and effect. Yet the body is neutral and holds no misplaced desire which could only originate in mind. When seen where it resides it is simply recognised as but another choice.

Matter is produced from fear in order to appear separate. Time is but a false idea of a segmented eternity, and space a false idea of apportioned wholeness. Leaving abstracts and addictions be, all have experienced examples of healing by letting go of past hurt and future worry. It’s our thoughts that are the key. It is within the present we became free.

So it be known, so be you now.